The 10 Greatest Gifts I Give My Children: Parenting from the Heart by Steven W.

Description: The 10 Greatest Gifts I Give My Children by Steven W. Vannoy The twentieth anniversary edition of the classic parenting book, now updated to reflect Steven Vannoys two decades of experience helping both families and businesses better care for their children and employees. For more than twenty years, The 10 Greatest Gifts I Give My Children has been helping parents to put the joy back into parenting. Steven Vannoys unique parenting style is designed to create a harmonious family atmosphere with self-esteem, compassion, balance, humor, communication, integrity, responsibility, conscious choice, and full expression of emotions. And parents are not the only ones who have benefitted from Vannoys wisdom: in the years since the book was first published, Vannoy has used the principles in this book to help businesses worldwide create healthier and more fulfilling workplaces. With updated principles and a new foreword by the author, this twentieth anniversary edition will help both new and old readers of The 10 Greatest Gifts I Give My Children build better relationships with their children and colleagues both in the office and at home. FORMAT Paperback LANGUAGE English CONDITION Brand New Author Biography Steven W. Vannoy, author, speaker, and facilitator, founded Verus Global in 1990 with a vision to create resilient work cultures, more productive teams, and higher quality of life for all. Now, with more than forty years of business leadership experience, Vannoy is a recognized expert in building strength in corporations internationally, as well as creating sustainable, healthy cultures in workplaces, communities, and families. Learn more about Verus Global at VerusGlobal.com. Table of Contents Contents No Band-Aids, Please King Dad, Queen Mom Five Powerful Parenting Tools Chapter One: Tool One FORWARD FOCUS Chapter Two: Tool Two MESSAGES Chapter Three: Tool Three TEACH Chapter Four: Tool Four LISTEN Chapter Five: Tool Five MODEL Chapter Six: Parenting from the Heart Chapter Seven: The Gift of FEELING FULLY Chapter Eight: The Gift of SELF-ESTEEM Chapter Nine: The Gift of COMPASSION Chapter Ten: The Gift of BALANCE Chapter Eleven: The Gift of HUMOR Chapter Twelve: The Gift of COMMUNICATION Chapter Thirteen: The Gift of ABUNDANCE Chapter Fourteen: The Gifts of INTEGRITY AND RESPONSIBILITY Chapter Fifteen: The Gift of CONSCIOUS CHOICE Chapter Sixteen: Recipe for Partnership Solutions, Please The 10 Greatest Gifts Project Review "Calling all parents -- finally, a real person, a parent, delivers the answers. Steven Vannoy identifies the questions and gives fabulous solutions. Where was he when I had little ones?"--Judith Briles, author of The Confidence Factor and Woman to Woman Review Quote "The greatest gift you can give your children is to read this book and use the powerful principles it teaches." Excerpt from Book Ten Greatest Gifts I Give My Children CHAPTER ONE Tool One: Forward Focus Sometimes I wonder about certain drivers I see hurtling down the highway. Their driving seems very erratic. Then I pull alongside and notice that while they appeared to be looking straight ahead, they were actually driving by looking in the rearview mirror. Some are checking their hair, applying makeup, shaving--whatever--and some are just staring in the mirror for no apparent reason. A lot of families I know, including my own for many years, steer their lives the way these drivers do their cars--by staring in the rearview mirror! We only have a certain amount of energy, time, and potential to use each day. Of the 100 percent we have, only we can choose where to focus it. And while at times it may look as if were moving forward, most of us are really aiming backward--back at all our accumulated problems, what didnt work, what went wrong, who elses fault it was, why we cant get where we want to go. Meanwhile, the families that are really going forward look forward, with only a brief glance back now and then to gain perspective and remember what worked before so they can do more of it. It reminds me of five-year-old Jeremys question: "Mom," he asked in a restaurant one day, "whats history?" His mom, Diane, gave him a lengthy discourse, drawing on her extensive college education. "I could see by his blank stare this was not getting through," Diane said. "I asked him where he had heard it used." "The waitress over there just dropped a fork and said Well, thats history, " he replied. The waitress had the proper perspective. She could have focused on how clumsy she was, what a problem it was that she would have to get a clean fork, how it disrupted her work. That kind of thinking would have lowered her self-esteem and diminished her joy and energy, but she let it just go as "history." Instead of reinforcing the thought that this was going to be "another one of those days," she instead turned her attention to moving forward. Can we actually choose how to focus our minds and energy so that we keep moving forward? Absolutely! Lets start with three simple principles of how our minds work. First: We can only focus on one thing at a time. When someone thinks hes simultaneously watching television, reading a magazine and talking on the phone hes fooling himself. Research shows that he is actually switching his attention back and forth from one thing to another. Dentists have discovered how patients listening to music through headphones experience less discomfort because theyre focusing on the music rather than whats going on in their mouth. We all know how easily a child can be distracted from an upset with a hug or a kiss or a toy because he or she can only focus on one thing at a time. Second: We cant avoid a "dont." Imagine Im standing in front of you right now and I suddenly hold up a sign that reads: "Dont look at my shoes." Where are your eyes going to go immediately? You guessed it! You might have tremendous willpower and be able to stop your eyes before they drift all the way down to my feet, but the urge will be mighty strong to catch a glimpse of my shoes. This is because our minds have to imagine doing something before we can tell ourselves to do it or not to do it. It took me a long time to realize that when I told my daughter not to spill her milk, she had to visualize actually spilling her milk before she could understand my words. If I tell her not to hit her sister, guess what Ive done? If you think Ive just presented her with a prime target, youre absolutely right. Third: We go toward what we focus on. Have you ever watched a pothole as you drove down the road and found thats exactly what you steered into? Or started watching the white line along the highway at night and found you were soon straddling it instead of driving in your lane? Horseback riders know a horse will go wherever its rider is looking. I remember the last time I went hang gliding. As I soared off the mountain cliff, a huge, soft-looking meadow spread below me. Only one tree interrupted its vast emptiness. Just one tree. Only one tree. A fascinating tree. I couldnt get my mind off that tree. Guess where I landed? Which child is likely to do better in a softball game -- the one whos focusing on the ball or the one whos trying to remember where to put her feet or how to hold her arms or grip the bat? These three factors describing how our minds work are so apparent now that I think back to how we used to struggle with my daughter Emmys "shyness." When Emmy was five, she was painfully shy. I introduced her as my "shy child" and other people would comment on how shy she was. Since we go toward what we focus on, of course, all she did was become more shy. Id say, "Emmy, dont be shy," but since we cant avoid a dont, guess which direction her shy quotient zoomed? The difference in her was like night and day once I learned to adjust my own focus as well as hers. If she said "hello" to someone, no matter how timidly, I focused on her greeting and complimented her on it. (This is a process we work on in "10 Greatest Gifts" seminars called FAC--Find, Acknowledge, Celebrate!) If she shook someones hand or looked them in the eye, I noticed that behavior and gave her lots of positive messages about it. In just a few months she became one of the most outgoing, sociable little girls I know. And many other people know and enjoy her as well, since shyness no longer holds her back. Each of us has a 100 percent portion of personal and family energy to use every day. Where we focus that energy makes or breaks our day and takes us either several steps back into the mess were struggling to get out of or many steps forward to where we want to go. On the opposite page is an illustration listing the choices we have every day on where to focus our attention and energy. We make choices every day. We can focus on whats not working (the left, back side) or we can focus on whats working. Since we can only focus on one thing at a time and since we go toward what we focus on, where would you rather focus? Most people say "on whats working," but where do most people and businesses usually direct their attention? Would you rather focus on all the reasons you (or your family or your club or your company) cant get the outcome you want, or would you rather head toward the results you want to create? Do you know someone who, when faced with a new idea or solution, can think of at least a dozen reasons why it wont work? Ill bet you know many because, sadly, thats the norm in our society. ENERGY CIRCLE When were operating on the back side of the energy circle, were stuck on the problem, on whats not working, on all the reasons we cant get where we want to be. We look for who else is to blame so we can justify why were poor, helpless victims. Since we can only focus on one thing at a time, when were on that side of the energy circle, we are indeed stuck there. Remember we can only be on one side or the other. When we refocus our energy and move into the forward side, we concentrate on whats working, what the solution is, the results we want to create and what we can do to move toward where we want to be. Its a simple reality of life--what you focus on is where youll go. Focus on your problems, and theyll loom larger every day. Focus on solutions, and the problems begin to fade away. Focus on what uproar your household is always in and the uproar will get worse. Focus on the quiet moments when everyone and everything is functioning harmoniously and that peace will soon expand. In the same vein, focus on all the reasons you cant achieve something or why it cant be done--and presto--youll prove yourself right, or find more reasons than you thought imaginable. Focus on what you dont like about something or somebody and sure enough, youll find more and more of those traits. "I get it now," a woman at a recent session called out as we discussed the energy circle. Im a mature, rational adult and a very careful driver. Ive never had an accident, but suddenly I go through phases of dinging and denting the car. I realize now its always after my dad visits from out of town. Whenever he visits he always insists that I scoot over to let him drive because, according to him, Im not a good enough driver. When he leaves, I start running into things. I know now I go toward what I focus on. After a couple of weeks with him, Im convinced Im a lousy driver. A husband and wife said at another seminar, "Were changing from having a TV room to a family room since we know well get what we focus on." Families can easily find themselves hopelessly mired in the "backward" part of the circle when they gather at the dinner table each night. My colleague Allison, for example, grew up in a very verbal family, all lawyers and teachers and writers. But there was also a predominantly negative focus of "Can you top this?" to their dinner conversations. Her brothers lousy day in school could be topped by moms crummy day at home only to be bested by dads horrible day in court Details ISBN147676297X Author Steven W. Vannoy Short Title 10 GREATEST GIFTS I GIVE MY CH Publisher Touchstone Books Language English ISBN-10 147676297X ISBN-13 9781476762975 Media Book Format Paperback DEWEY 649.1 Year 2014 Publication Date 2014-05-06 Subtitle Parenting from the Heart Country of Publication United States AU Release Date 2014-05-06 NZ Release Date 2014-05-06 US Release Date 2014-05-06 UK Release Date 2014-05-06 Pages 256 Imprint Touchstone Books Audience General We've got this At The Nile, if you're looking for it, we've got it. With fast shipping, low prices, friendly service and well over a million items - you're bound to find what you want, at a price you'll love! TheNile_Item_ID:79030607;

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